Self-Esteem
A note about “Truth” with a capital “T”…
What if I told you that the unkind things you say to yourself are not the “Capital T” truth? Those self-doubts and judgments are not accurate assessments of your worth. I know they feel true; but, really, they’re just messages you’ve internalized.
It’s just like your native language. It feels so natural, yet it’s not THE inherently true or correct language. If you had been born in a different country with a different language, then that other language would have been the one that felt natural and true.
It is the very same thing with the way you think about yourself. Maybe these messages are the things you received as a child from your family. Maybe they’re things you’ve heard from lovers or in the media.
Low self-esteem is a rampant problem, and it is a matter of faulty programming.
What if you never doubted your own worthiness?
Think about it. What would it mean? For love? For success? For happiness?
Knowing your preciousness is not vanity or having a big ego. It’s recognizing that you are a unique expression of love with gifts to share with the world. As Marianne Williamson says:
“We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? Your playing small does not serve the world.”
Together, we will look again and again at who you really are…
Having good self-esteem actually allows you to be more honest with yourself about areas where you may need to grow.
Just as an unconditionally loving parent tells their child when their behavior or attitude could use some work, you can look at your own choices and behavior objectively without self-reproach.
You can recognize that learning from your mistakes and making changes is a powerful way to grow and develop into more and more of your highest potential. Your mistakes are not failures or an indication that you are somehow lacking; they are the very way we learn.
Working together on the road to better self-esteem…
What’s happened is that you’ve forgotten the truth. But the truth is bigger than any of the stories you’ve internalized about your unworthiness, and it is indestructible. We just need to uncover it.
You are not what has happened to you. You are not what you have been told you are. You are not what you do, what you look like, or what is in your bank account.
You are not your family, your culture, the color of your skin, or your sexual orientations. These are aspects of your identity, but the true essence of who you are is beyond them all.
You are a child of the universe, as worthy as every tree, flower, and puppy. You belong to the world in the same way as the sky and the ocean.
Together, we will look again and again at who you really are…
… and disentangle you from any belief systems of media, culture, friends, and family that distort your clear vision.
These are lenses that distort reality, and you don’t need to wear them any longer. Sometimes you will forget you are wearing them. That’s okay. I will gently remind you that you are free to take them off.
Over time you will notice a feeling of connection to your own heart and a grounded, peaceful knowing of your inherent worth. Not a boastful, showy, better-than-others feeling. Rather, a secure knowledge that you belong here, and you have gifts to offer the world just by being who you are. This is your natural state.
I can’t wait to meet you!
Deep in the center of your being, there is a point of stillness and wisdom. Are you ready to listen to that part of yourself?
Give me a call at (415) 408-6020, and let me know. I want to hear about you!