Couples Therapy

Even in relationships where the love and commitment are real, things can get stuck.

You might find yourselves having the same argument repeatedly without resolution. Or the distance between you has grown quietly over time and you are not sure how you got here. Maybe one of you shuts down and the other pushes, and you both end up feeling frustrated and alone.

These patterns are not a sign that something is fundamentally wrong. They are usually a sign that each person is responding from a place of unmet need or fear, and that the ways you have learned to cope are getting in the way of actually connecting.

In couples therapy, we slow things down and look at what is actually happening underneath the surface of those moments. What each person is feeling, what they need, and what gets in the way of being able to say that clearly.

From there, we work on building more range, more ways to approach each other, more ability to stay present during difficult conversations, and more understanding of what each person actually needs to feel safe and connected.

This is not about assigning blame or deciding who is right. It is about understanding the dynamic you have created together and finding ways to shift it.

Couples therapy can be useful at many different points in a relationship, not only in crisis. Some couples come when things feel urgent. Others come because they want to strengthen something that is already good.

If you are both willing to show up and do the work, a lot can change.

Give me a call today for a free 15-minute consultation.

Let’s chat about what’s going on in your relationship and discuss how couples counseling might help you move together toward your goals: (415) 408-6020.